Learning how to make a woman orgasm from intercourse alone is the goal of all men as both partners experience equal pleasure. This is not always an easy task to accomplish though as all female orgasms stem from the clitoris, which is hidden in many positions. So, you need to be able to stimulate those nerves from whatever position you are in. If you do not have direct access to the clitoris with your hand then you will need to indirectly access the clit through the G-spot (all of these nerves go to the clit and cause the climax). Therefore, no matter what position you are in you need to be thinking about your penis grinding up into the upper wall of her vagina – more specifically, the first few inches of the upper wall.
The CAT Position – Coital Alignment Technique
The coital alignment technique was first documented by Masters and Johnson. Essentially, it’s just missionary position but the man moves further up towards the woman’s head in order to angle the penis differently than just the normal in and out motion. What you want to do is make a more up and down motion so that your penis is really rubbing against the first couple inches of the vaginal opening and the clitoris.
This position has been proven to be the most effective in consistently making the woman climax from intercourse.
I once made a woman cum from this position and I had no idea what I had done until many years later when I read about this technique. I had never made that girl cum before or after this one experience because I had no idea what I’d done. Nonetheless, it is documented to be extremely effective…if a little boring.
There are really many different ways to alter missionary position in order to spice it up a little. Most men aren’t big fans of missionary because they don’t get the view or the tactile sensations from their hands. Nonetheless, this position is definitely the most effective in making most women climax.
I never do just straight missionary because I like to be able to see or feel the ass. This alternative missionary position works best if you are at least 6 inches taller than your partner. If you’re not taller then you can still do it…it’s just a little bit awkward.
The way it works is you put your head above her shoulder in order to take all of your weight. You then use both of your hands to reach underneath her and lift up her ass. You can angle her hips so that you can grind your penis right into her G-spot, plus you get to grab onto her ass. If you’re not tall enough to rest your head above her shoulder then you can put your head to the side of her shoulder instead…it works but it’s a little awkward.
Another way to angle into her G-spot from missionary is to use a thick pillow underneath her ass or different ramps and cushions found below.
If the female is comfortable enough then you should encourage her to rub her clit from missionary. As a man I hope you would not feel insecure about your partner rubbing herself during intercourse as this is truly the key to her climaxing and that should be your ultimate goal. If that is not your goal then you do not deserve to have sex with any woman and you should just stick to jacking off to porn.
Some may call this by other names but I call it froggy style. It’s when the girl lays flat on her stomach and the man lays on top of her in order to take her from behind. This position is fantastic because it is the easiest to access the clitoris in. Any woman I do this position with instantly loves it.
It is definitely easiest to do if you are taller than the woman and can rest your head above her shoulder but it’s not necessary. You really only need one hand to rub her clit with so your other arm can be taking your weight. Or you can rest your head to the side of her shoulder if you want to grab a hold of a breast or hip with your ‘non-clit’ hand.
This position works best if you put a pillow underneath her hip as it can cause some lower back pain from pushing up against her while laying flat on her stomach.
Again, the biggest key to this position is being able to rub her clitoris but there are a few things you should keep in mind while doing that. First thing is you need to have lubrication while rubbing her clit. If she is wet enough then that is great. Either way, I always put some saliva on my finger before I reach underneath her to do this. Of course store bought lubrication works as well. The other thing you want to keep in mind is if she has a really sensitive clit. You need to know what kind of pressure you can put on her and whether she likes that at all. Lots of women don’t like direct contact with their clitoris so you should ask them if they would like you to do that. If they are really sensitive then you can just rub beside the clit. Also, keep in mind that the clitoris becomes even more sensitive after orgasm.
There are hundreds if not thousands of positions you can do during sex but the one thing you must always keep in mind (if you are trying to make her climax) is getting stimulation to her clitoral nerves – either from the G-spot, clitoris, or anus (more on that in ‘Rear Admiral’). I have included a link to a book with many different positions if you care to research further.
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